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Hello! me and my husband just got married a few months, beginning when our lives quite happy, very sweet, he really know how to care about me, and I think he really I could go my whole life, feel particularly happy.

But only a few months, he now feels to me more and more not as good.

day I called him to do something to help, he said a lot of road vehicles, can not stop , let me go with him; I get away because of work, no time to let him help, and I have time, also allows him to help do?

Finally, I did not let him help, and now think of him every time to help will be noisy on a few, he is too self, do not they do something to help her husband to his wife love it so reluctant? think I am very angry.

Later, he actually sent a text message asking me: "What people?"

I was even more angry, and asked him directly back to the message, "I be who you are? my words not as words, is not it, so you do not line a little better since we got married so that what significance ah? divorce better. "

In fact, I did not int to divorce, but the angry words. After a long time, he sent a text message saying" Do you regret marrying me I said OK, and so many things downtown Why ".

I am more and more angry, this person a soft words will not say it? just got married, I was angry, he will come to coax me, give me an apology, and now to actually say such a thing?

he is now in the is how is it? is not considered married, Know you can, you can no longer good to me, I am no longer the same as spoil the treasure? you can disregard my feelings?

married men are like this? I am not willing, not willing to admit defeat, the two of us who do not want to speak first, so we cold for several days, ask the experts such marriages longer continue? later not encounter more trouble? please help me!

expert replies:

Hello! bad husband because the car parked, so you want to go with him, so you can take care of each other, apparently he was not do not want to help out, but only because of practical reasons to look forward to this for me to help some of the more smoothly. And another point, he was just from the subconscious to you as the most intimate person, and you want to increase the time to sp, is not it? you to this little contradiction from the previous feelings of suspicion would be too overkill.

I think your question is: Do you get along between the model also needs to be adjusted. take you to this latest conflict that you can use another way to communicate with each other, such as his own feelings to each other calm and objective statements, but also to the other party the opportunity to present their ideas, not to say there is no need for "divorce" of the words. to break up frequently talks about, that you will only make the other threatened him, he pushed the corner of self-defense, so he used "Do you regret marrying I said well, why trouble so many things," so to retaliate you , the two sides of the conflict even more intensified.

In fact, in the intimate relations of each turning point, both sides will have a lot of subtle psychological changes, such as you have just entered the marriage, it seems more intimate, but also easier misunderstand each other for some details, so good communication is very important to the smooth, smooth communication allows both parties to understand each other more practical problems, seriously reflect on and adjust, so that marriage is more intimate and harmonious, and if the communication is not smooth, long-term effect will only affect the stability of marriage, will lead to more serious breakdown of the marriage.

I think the little things in order so it is not worth bloom, as well with two people talk to each other to establish more effective communication between , agreed to in the future do not pique attitude to solve the problem, but rather use the tolerance calm, matter-of-the attitude to face the occasional contradictions, I believe your husband would be hard to match you, and the establishment of an effective mode of communication is bound to be more help maintain your marriage, marriage to each other more happy and harmonious.

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